Unintentionally, we make some of the most common parenting mistakes. Let’s hear about them and be mindful the next time we utter or expect our child to be the way we want them to be..
Here we go!!!
1. SAYING NO WITHOUT PUTTING A THOUGHT BEHIND IT. A LOT OF TIME ITS A MECHANICAL NO AND MANY A TIME PARENTS DON’T EVEN REALISE IT.
2. PROCRASTINATION. NOT NOW. LET’S DO IT LATER. WHY DO WE SAY THIS? IT IS EITHER BECAUSE OF OUR LETHARGY OR WE ARE GENUINELY CAUGHT UP. WHEN WE PROCRASTINATE THINGS IT DAMPENS OUR CHILD’S ENTHUSIASM. ASSURE HER THAT YOU WILL PLAY WITH HER OR READ TO HER INSTEAD OF SHRUGGING IT OFF.
3. FORCE FEEDING …I DON’T KNOW WHAT PLEASURE WE DERIVE OUT OF FORCE FEEDING OUR CHILDREN. CAN U EVER FORCE FEED YOURSELF OR IF YOU VISIT
RELATIVES AND THEY FORCE FEED YOU, HOW DO YOU FEEL? THIS IS EXACTLY HOW KIDS FEEL WHEN YOU PUT FOOD DOWN THEIR THROAT. SO THE MOMENT THEY ARE DONE. RESPECT THAT. AND STOP. UNDERSTAND! YOUR CHILD KNOWS WHEN THEY ARE FULL. BE ASSURED THAT THEY WILL COME TO YOU WHEN THEY ARE HUNGRY. ALSO, INSTEAD OF RANDOM FEEDING HAVE A ROUTINE FOR THEM.
4. DISCIPLINING USING VERBAL BASHING. IT DOES NO GOOD AND HARMS THEIR SELF ESTEEM. RATHER, THE CHILD WON’T EVEN HAVE THE DESIRE TO GET DISCIPLINED AND WOULD RATHER REPEL TILL YOU SIT HER DOWN AND HAVE A DIALOGUE.
5. TRYING TO MAKE IT EASY FOR THEM. LET THEM HANDLE THEIR OWN LITTLE BATTLES. TEACH THEM TO DUST OFF AND GET BACK. THIS WAY THEY’LL BE EQUIPPED TO HANDLE THEIR STRUGGLES WELL AS THEY GROW UP.
6. DEMANDING PERFECTION FROM THEM. IT ONLY PLEASES YOUR EGO. IN HINDSIGHT YOU MIGHT SEE THAT IN AN ATTEMPT TO CHASE PERFECTION FOR THEIR PARENTS THEY MIGHT ACT ON WHAT U WANT BUT EVENTUALLY WOULD START WITHDRAWING AND DISTANCING THEMSELVES. WOULD WE WANT THAT FOR OUR KIDS/ INSTEAD, TEACH THEM TO BE SELF MOTIVATED TO DO WHAT THEY LOVE DOING, AND ART OF NEVER GIVING UP ON MAKING EFFORT. THIS WILL LEAD THEM TO PERFECTION IN THE RIGHT SPIRIT.
I HOPE YOU FOUND THESE INSIGHTS USEFUL!
ADITI MALIK 